Z is for Zen
“Zen? Why would you want to believe in Zen? They don’t believe in anything!“- My stepmother, circa 1985 “Surprisingly, the height of both the arousal and the meditative state seemed to come for both the top and the bottom when the rope was coming off – that is, in the negative space that was being[…]
O is for Orgasm
There has been a huge amount of debate over the female orgasm. Whereas men tend to have only one type, women’s climax comes in two different varieties: vaginal and clitoral. – “The Clitoral Truth”, Vivian Bailey It was about this point that I had to stop reading the book. I’m all in favor of the[…]
F is for Fellatio
While this might have seemed like a no-brainer, I’m not going to sit here and give people advice on how to perform fellatio, as some of my esteemed colleagues have done. One in particular is a het male who somehow manages to teach women-only workshops on how to give better blowjobs. That blows my mind,[…]
Co-ed Naked Settlers of Cataan
In an online conversation with a dear friend, he commented offhand “You know, I’ve made so many bad decisions when I was horny…” Like most good friends, I heartily agreed. And then suddenly it occurred to me that I’ve never heard the opposite said: “I’ve made so many great decisions when I was horny…” And it[…]
Answering Sex Out Loud
Recently I was honored to be invited back to the Bondage Capital of the World, Madison, WI to teach a workshop on kink to the Sex Out Loud staff and pulling out practices. This is a group of peer-educators who make sex education their business, and damn if they aren’t an impressive bunch. They listened[…]
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How to Find the Perfect Play Partner
It’s funny, when I’m looking over my Google Reader. I’ve got a strange mishmash of feeds…Twisted Monk and Mistress Matisse and Ten and Mollena, of course, but then it veers into Lifehacker and Mnmlist and Hardcore Zen. Then we take another only slight turn to the right into productivity and entrepreneurial blogs like Seth Godin[…]
On January 24th, 2011, a representative of the Toronto Police gave shocking insight into the Force’s view of sexual assault by stating: “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized”. – from the SlutWalk Toronto Facebook Page Hi, my name’s GrayDancer, and I’m a slut. No, I don’t want to sleep[…]
Sex Ed for the Needy Privileged
while yes, the focus has been on male heterosexual pleasure, it has been a false focus.