Naiia submits to Graydancer during a kinky cigar scene.

Power Exchange Intensive in Iowa

There’s one thing I forget about teaching at intensives: They’re intense. Naiia and I were going to be teaching eight classes- four together, four apart – over the course of two days at a private residence in Iowa. There were about 18 attendees, some couples and some single, all with one common interest: Power Exchange.[…]

The Future of Sex & Social Change: By Any Dance Necessary

In the beginning of June Naiia and I are going to be co-facilitating part of a neat event at Fort Mason in San Francisco: THIS IS WHAT I WANT festival is hosting an Unconference on pleasure, lineage and sustainability. Join us in this peer led space to collectively explore vital ideas about our various practices[…]

Why Don’t They Just…

“Why don’t they just…” are four words that I’m beginning to recognize as a warning signal. Uninformed Idiocy Ahead! Sometimes it’s about specific actions. For example: Person A passes Person B in the hallway, and decides to suddenly start some kind of kink play. Person B doesn’t want that kink play to happen, so obviously they[…]

The Rashomon (Consent-Incident Responders) at ROPECRAFT

A friend (who was also a volunteer for ROPECRAFT) asked me about the guidelines and training for the Rashomon at the event. In case you don’t know what the Rashomon were, here’s a link to the page, but TL;DR, here’s the summary: Their title comes from the classic movie of the same name, which is[…]

Military Bondage Play in L.A.

I am bringing one of my favorite classes to L.A. for the first time, thanks to the Bordello of Decadence. Boot camp bondage, interrogation techniques, & more! Military bondage play draws from both fictional and practical methods of bondage with a more martial theme. Samurai, the US Cavalry, native Americans, special forces, Batman & Star[…]

Travel Tips for the International Kinkster

Right now I’m at the start of a couple of months of active traveling around the U.S. and Canada. At the same time I’ve been lucky enough to host Hishi Karo of the Shibari Dojo Vienna for a week in my home, which led to many interesting conversations about the differences in various countries. I also[…]