Stepping Away From Consent Rocks
After a lot of reflection, I have decided not to be a part of the process of turning Consent Rocks into a non-profit and independent organization.
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Power Exchange Intensive in Iowa
There’s one thing I forget about teaching at intensives: They’re intense. Naiia and I were going to be teaching eight classes- four together, four apart – over the course of two days at a private residence in Iowa. There were about 18 attendees, some couples and some single, all with one common interest: Power Exchange.[…]
The Future of Sex & Social Change: By Any Dance Necessary
In the beginning of June Naiia and I are going to be co-facilitating part of a neat event at Fort Mason in San Francisco: THIS IS WHAT I WANT festival is hosting an Unconference on pleasure, lineage and sustainability. Join us in this peer led space to collectively explore vital ideas about our various practices[…]
In Defense of O-Face
Ever heard the term “fristing”? I wish you had. I am trying to get it into common (well, among the rope-community) parlance much like Dan Savage popularized “santorum”. Senator-Doctor Bill Frist became a cause-celebre for a few weeks a while back when he weighed in on the unfortunate plight of Terry Schaivo. I won’t rehash the[…]
Why Don’t They Just…
“Why don’t they just…” are four words that I’m beginning to recognize as a warning signal. Uninformed Idiocy Ahead! Sometimes it’s about specific actions. For example: Person A passes Person B in the hallway, and decides to suddenly start some kind of kink play. Person B doesn’t want that kink play to happen, so obviously they[…]
The Rashomon (Consent-Incident Responders) at ROPECRAFT
A friend (who was also a volunteer for ROPECRAFT) asked me about the guidelines and training for the Rashomon at the event. In case you don’t know what the Rashomon were, here’s a link to the page, but TL;DR, here’s the summary: Their title comes from the classic movie of the same name, which is[…]
Military Bondage Play in L.A.
I am bringing one of my favorite classes to L.A. for the first time, thanks to the Bordello of Decadence. Boot camp bondage, interrogation techniques, & more! Military bondage play draws from both fictional and practical methods of bondage with a more martial theme. Samurai, the US Cavalry, native Americans, special forces, Batman & Star[…]
Join me 10/14 for #SexTalkTuesday!
I’ve been pretty active on twitter pretty much since it came out, and unlike many people who find it annoying, I’ve found it pretty useful. I use it as a means of communication with friends both in public and in private, as an occasional soapbox, as a job lead engine, a publicity model, and sometimes[…]
Travel Tips for the International Kinkster
Right now I’m at the start of a couple of months of active traveling around the U.S. and Canada. At the same time I’ve been lucky enough to host Hishi Karo of the Shibari Dojo Vienna for a week in my home, which led to many interesting conversations about the differences in various countries. I also[…]