Aw, Shucks…A Kudo for the San Diego GRUE

February 4th, 2010

An Unexpected Saturday

by Scott

One of our local rope gurus, Matt, invited Club X to Graydancer’s Ropetastic Unconference Extravaganza. On Saturday, January 16th, Cobi, our Club X Workshop Coordinator, and I walked into a packed house of 50+ people, some familiar local faces but others from Los Angeles, Kansas City and even one couple from Canada. Graydancer, from Wisconsin, began the day with an explanation of his concept for the conference.  This is an excerpt taken from Graydancer’s Blog:

“The concept of the unconference (and what is known as “open space technologies”) came from the tech & business fields, where some people noticed that while events might have one or two presenters who gave interesting topics, most of the really stimulating and constructive conversations were spur-of-the-moment pickup meetings between chance individuals who happened to chat during a coffee or meal break, or hang out in the hotel bar or lobby later. They began to wonder if there could perhaps be a conference that was entirely made up of these kinds of moments.”

Graydancer proceeded to hand out sticky pad sheets of paper where one could put a topic or technique they wanted to present or facilitate.  The wall first filled up slowly but gained speed with around 20 topics ranging from suspension bondage and a one handed knot to takedowns, interesting BDSM implements and breath play. These discussions and demonstrations were to be taught by local and non-local kinky people, not necessarily experts but by people with various skills and experience sharing what they had picked up and what worked for them. I was amazed and inspired, and I learned how to properly perform breath play. There were 2-4 demonstrations and seminars happening at the same time that lasted from 15 minutes to around two hours, depending on how long it took to share the technique or idea. The agenda was developed by the skills of the attendees and the length was however long it needed to take.

What started out as apprehension turned into an experience of a lifetime that taught me not only new skills but also that my preconceived notions often are my limitation to my BDSM and life path growth. Thank you, Matt, for the opportunity to be a part of this.

Reprinted with permission from the Editor, Chainlink Newsletter, Club X, San Diego, CA  2/2/2010

A New Ropecast for the New Year!

January 30th, 2010

The GRUE aint the only game in town- KinkForAll Providence RI!

January 18th, 2010

Im not the only one embracing the Unconference model for events – in fact, there at least two other events that use Open Space methods to have very different but exciting events. Sex 2.0 is one, and Kink For All is celebrating its 5th incarnation in Providence RI. Look for the Twitter hashtag #kfapvd, or do like I did and visit http://saraeileen.com/blog/2010/02/live-blog-kinkforall-providence-kfapvd/ where Sara Eileen is liveblogging the event.

Im very curious to get to one of these -the 20 minutes, no more! format sounds like a pretty intense creative constraint, and I can see why people come out of them practically exploding with ideas…

The Fire Ball II: FIRE BALLSIER!

January 13th, 2010

Dane101 and Mayhem Productions present…
THE FIRE BALL (AKA “FIRE BALL II: FIRE BALLSIER”)

On Saturday, January 30th the hottest event of the winter returns for a night of dancing, debauchery, and awesome costumes! That’s right freaks, it’s the return of last year’s wildly successful FIRE BALL – featuring a dance party with DJ CHEN-CHENG, belly dancing, burlesque, and fetish demos. Plus, it’s your night to shine with our masquerade theme prompting any and all to don their finest party duds (anything from steampunk to sci-fi, Victorian to Renaissance, fetish to haute couture). We’ll have a photographer on hand to document all the fabulous fashions!

We’ve got an excellent line-up of performers for you, too:

  • MISS TAMALE (sizzling burlesque all the way from Chicago)
  • ASHAR DANCE COMPANY (belly dance from right here in Madison)
  • SABLE SIN CYR (classic burlesque by way of Baltimore)
  • THE TWINS (a darkly funny sister act)
  • FOXY VERONICA’S PEACH PIES (hometown caburlesque)
  • GRAYDANCER (bondage performer)

We can’t wait to see you there! For more info, keep an eye on www.dane101.com

That’s THE FIRE BALL II: FIRE BALLSIER
Saturday, January 30th at the High Noon Saloon
9:00 p.m., $7/door, 21+

A preview of upcoming pics

January 12th, 2010

Just a test of uploading images and also posting from my iPhone. Pic is from the performance at the Cardinal Bar in Madison WI December 29, 2009.

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eLust #5

January 12th, 2010

I’ve been lucky enough to be included with a whole bunch of other fine folks on the eLust pages…if you enjoyed the Porn Reports part 1, you might enjoy these other entries as well…

IMG_3649HNT Courtesy of Sexy Sadie

Welcome to e[lust] - your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #6? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

♦ This Week’s Top Three Posts ♦

Late Arrival: An Airport Encounter - I saw a possible haven ahead: a pilot disappearing into the pilots’ lounge. I could think of nowhere else that would offer us even a modicum of privacy. Time to brazen it out. With her still walking obediently alongside, I pushed my way into the lounge.

The Condom Question. Confession #397 – Luckily, this time I had my wits about me enough to reply with a categorical, Yes a condom is absolutely necessary, darlin, but history has proven that, while I’m naked and horny, I can offer no more justification as to why such protection is paramount.

No more… - “I’m so sorry, I can’t…”. Words, words, so many words… reasons and reasoning and things and stuff and none of it made sense, and through all of it, disbelief, dread, a sickness of heart… I couldn’t quite believe what I was hearing.

e[lust] Editress

Sex as a Panacea - As I begged “faster” “harder” “more!” I felt my orgasm come on, a mere minute or two after we began with this combination. A thunderous orgasm overtook me as he kept up with the dildo and I with the Climax for the first big wave.

♦ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick)

Bad Girl – I take off my coat and stand proudly before her in my black lace corset, suspenders, stockings and heels. She looks me up and down and smiles at me when she catches my stare. Desire is already zinging through my body.

See also: Pleasurists #59 and #60 for all your sex toy review needs

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Blowjob Tips!

Companioning

Domestic Violence on MTV’s ‘Teen Mom’

From Helper To Survivor

Good girl, bad girl…

Girlie Toys

If the Peg Fits

Illicit Encounters

Insecurity, You can Kiss My Ass

Nothing is perfect, which is why there is communication

Regaining my Femme

Studying

The Condom Question. Confession #397

Erotic Writing

All Rise For the Queen

Centre of Attention

Crying Uncle

Ending The Decade With Wes

Invading The Boy’s Club – #4

Last Night

Late Arrival: An Airport Encounter

Lorraine’s Coming Out

My reputation precedes me

Party Doll

The Beginning

The Erotic Touch of a Stranger

Kink & Fetish

1st night out as sub

Being my Master’s Shoe Slut

Bondage and Being Ignored

Caning in the snow at New Year

Mind Games and Number Games

Much Ado About Punching

No more…

September 2010: A Slave’s Initiation

The Intimacy of Being Taken

Thievery

The workhouse maid, punished

The Porn Reports, Part 1

Violence and BDSM

Yes, No, and Consent

“You’re a good little fuck toy”

News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Delegating Gaga

I Hope He Does “Animal” Next

Sometimes I’m Not So Sexy…

The Porn Reports…part 1

January 5th, 2010

Recently, some files came into my possession. They appear to be “reports” written by a submissive to her dominant, telling him what kind of porn online turned her on, and why. In light of the controversy regarding whether or not women enjoy porn, I thought sharing these files with the world, along with suitable illustrations, might be a good idea.

Plus, there’s boobies. Part 1 of several follows:

Sir,

I spent a long time trying to do this, thoughts of you and your cock and hands….let’s just say I kept getting distracted.

Lorelei Lee and Daniel

Lorelei Lee and Daniel

This picture just got me wet and caused me to run for my dildo.  I want to be her. I have been unable to satisfy a growing urge lately.  I love the hands on her head and the threat of what looks like a cattle prod.  It doesn’t hurt that her mouth is wonderful and she looks beautiful sucking his cock.  I like that the image is so close you can see drool.

Yep, I NEED to see you Sir.

Madison Young on HogTied.com

Madison Young on HogTied.com

Ok, for something a little different for me.  This image I find extremely beautiful.  I love the lines of her body, the marks.  I love the curve of her neck and even the way her hair is pulled back from her face. The rope, I think that it makes the picture all the more seductive to me.  She looks so fluid and the ropes are so tight.  This picture to me is so erotic without all the overt sexuality.  Maybe it is because with all the tight bondage she looks at peace, a place I love to find in the rope… when you find your breath and can feel every fiber.  It feels safe and so much like a lover’s embrace.  I could sit and stare at this picture for hours.  I have to admit that it is not one of those situations that makes me wet, but the sensuality of it gets me.

Isobel Wren on WaterBondage.com

Isobel Wren on WaterBondage.com

Ok, I seem to have a thing for pretty girls in beautiful poses. I find this image stunning and painful and erotic.  I love that you can only slightly see her face behind her soaking hair.  I love the pose and the fact that her coat is still seemingly on, but she is completely exposed.  The rope around her legs I find very sensual, I would think that the texture of the rope would change and depending on what was used could become very uncomfortable when wet.  If that is rope, hard to tell.  I am feeling the sensual images this week, much more than the blatant sexuality.  Don’t get me wrong, fastest way to masturbation is blowjobs and penetration, but there is something about the images this time that makes my imagination go crazy.  It is a turn on to not see the sex, to not know if anyone else is there, to not see what’s coming.  Beautiful women in bondage…I think this week that’s what it’s about.  Who knew?

Derrick Pierce & Delilah Knight in Sex & Submission

Derrick Pierce & Delilah Knight in Sex & Submission

Ok, thought I would hit on the stuff that gets me wet.  I do love these two.  This clip has a little bit of everything…rope, penetration, hair pulling, flogging.  Fucking and pain are two of my favorite thing and when combined, well, even better.  Having my hair pulled until I cry while being fucked is a new favorite thought.

Ah yes, it is that time, off to take care of something to help me sleep :)

Come back next Monday for part 2 of the Porn Reports…

Please, Ma’am: Erotic Stories of Male Submission to be published July 2010

December 23rd, 2009

Please, Ma’am: Erotic Stories of Male Submission, edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel, will be published by Cleis Press in June 2010.

Introduction will be posted soon. It is available for pre-order on Amazon.com.

Table of contents:

  • Introduction
  • I Live to Serve Teresa Noelle Roberts It’s Not Me It’s You Charlotte Stein
  • A Charmed Life by Isabelle Gray
  • A Maze, and Grace Elizabeth Coldwell
  • Inside the Pride Remittance Girl
  • Modern Major General Craig J. Sorensen
  • Mr. February Madeline Elayne
  • Frozen A.D.R. Forte
  • Thrift Store Whore Sommer Marsden
  • Porch Swing Dominic Santi
  • Paypig Michael Hemmingson
  • The Crack of the Bat Heidi Champa
  • Dressing for Dinner Giselle Renarde
  • Living Rough Ariel Graham
  • Pick a Color by D.L. King
  • Houseboy Rachel Kramer Bussel
  • The Unhappy Table Lee Ash
  • I’ll Do It. For Her. Graydancer

Coming to Boston: Nawa-Do, the way of Rope

December 9th, 2009

emThese are the details from Jimi Tatus upcoming workshop with the BoundInBoston group:/em

strongNawa-do: The Way of Rope/strong

Master Tatu’s – School of the Japanese Rope Arts Weekend Intensive Workshop

Level I – Basic to Intermediate 10-12 Hours of Instruction

Boston, MA Friday, Jan 22 – Saturday, Jan 23, 2010

Friday, January 22, 2010
7:00pm Introductions – Meet n Greet

Note on Safety: Master Tatu’s style of education incorporates aspects of safety throughout the course with each tie, rather than in one specific class.

7:00pm – 7:45pm Japanese Aesthetics and Comparative Styles

Master Tatu who has studied Japanese Culture for the past 30 years has a unique perspective to share in understanding comparative styles Japanese Aesthetics which are foundational to learning Kinbaku. While the teaching of forms is typical and necessary, no one else in North America teaches Shibari from this perspective. Understanding cultural aesthetics is critical in understanding and learning the Way of Japanese Bondage (Kinbaku-do).

8:00pm – 8:45pm (Level Basic)
Katas 1: Getting your hands dirty, so to speak, as this will be our first class participation workshop. Tatu will instruct basic knots for bondage with an emphasis on safety. He will also demonstrate comparative wrist and limb ties Ryo-tekubi, giving consideration to circulation and nerves paths in the human anatomy.

Also taught will be the Kotobu Ryo-tekubi wrists behind the neck tie. This tie often is a telling moment when the rope bottom finds herself unable to resist the erotic encounter.

Here we will also explore an exciting additional intermediate form, the Teppo Shibari.

9:00pm – 11:00pm (Basic to Intermediate) Katas 2: Japanese Styled Chest Harnesses – Part 1 Being rendered incapable of only embracing the rope is a key moment of sensual surrender in the rope bondage experience. Tatu will teach the basic forms of chest harnessing that will place your rope bottom in the position of no choice, but to surrender her/his power to the pleasure inflicted. Presented will be the traditional “Gote Shibari” and Ushiro Takata-kote, a box arm wrist tie. This form is the building block of most Japanese Rope ties. Basic safety and quick release methods will be covered.

Two additional traditional Japanese chest harness variations will be taught at this time, known as the Ushiro Tasuki as well as the Hon Kikkou. Working off the Chest Harness, we will finish with an intermediate form, the Gyaku Ebi (Japanese Hogtie); and explore some wonderfully torturous applications.

Saturday, November 7, 2009

10:00am Doors Open – Coffee Juice, etc.

10:30am – 12:00noon Torture to Erotic Surrender” – Continuation of the History Japanese Sexual Culture and the use of rope from a martial skill, to torture, to the beauty in suffering of Kinbaku – Power Point Presentation

Noon – 1pm Lunch Break

1:00pm – 2:00pm (Intermediate) Katas 3: Nawa Aikido – Floorwork (Yukawaza), Ground Grappling (Ne-waza) Rope Energy (Kami-do), Connection, Spirituality Sensuality Nawa-aikido refers to a style of erotic Japanese Rope Bondage in the Kinbaku-bi tradition. The style was developed and the term coined by Rope Master Tatu, who is also an Aikido practitioner. It is used to describe the way of experiencing love and harmony through the rope bondage journey. For Master Tatu, it is the connection the rope facilitates that is foundational to it all.

2:15pm – 3:15pm (Intermediate)
Katas 4: Intermediate Japanese Body Weaves Being encased in rope is a wonderful, sensual and secure experience for the rope bottom. Tatu will present various methods to tie the Hishi-nawa sometimes known as a “Karada, which is a traditional style Japanese diamond body weave.

Note: Most probably know the basics in fact a basic “Hishi Karada” is probably the 1st Japanese styles tie you learned; so we are going to move quickly into some fun with some exciting more advanced techniques using some traditional Japanese implements.

Also covered will be the “Kikkou-nawa, and “Gangi garame” (completely bound and immobilized).

3:30pm – 4:45pm (Intermediate)
Katas 5: Takezao he no Kousoku (tying to a bamboo rod)

5:00pm – 7:00pm (Basic to Intermediate) Katas 5: Torturous Sex – Shibari Style In this class participants will learn what Tatu calls S.U.S.H.I. or Seductive Uninhibited Shibari Hot Intimacy.

The Japanese have some very interesting ties that are accommodating for sexual pleasuring. This is a class on how to beautifully, tie, pose and expose your rope victim using classic shibari ties such as Momo-shibari, Komon Sarashi, Ebi; as well as a intermediate level semi suspension techniques and other ties to position your delicacy.

Additionally, use of traditional Japanese torture devices will be explored.

Sushi anyone?

RAZOR: Risk Aware Zombie Orgasmic Restraint

October 25th, 2009

with special thanks and a dedication to JinxedKisses and DeviantTouch, hosts of the YoungAndKinky podcast, and current leaders of the Madison, WI Zombie Lurch. Addendum: Zombie lurch was originally founded by MadIvy, another insanely cool Madison person.

Presented for your edification this Halloween season, the definitive guide to RAZOR: Risk-Aware Zombie Orgasmic Restraint.

  1. “BRAAAIIIINNNNNSSSSS!!” is not a safeword.
  2. Circulation issues with zombie rope bondage? Not so much.
  3. A blow to the head will kill, yes. Striking the ass, however, will stimulate a different kind of primal appetite.
  4. The concept of “Fluid Bonding” has less to do with STIs and more to do with superglue, epoxy, & keeping limbs attached
  5. “S/he fucked my brains out” is no longer really a good thing…also, the phrase “My girlfriend is late” may have a different meaning.
  6. Likewise, “giving head” may not be the concept you are accustomed to. Beware of misunderstanding rope harness directions that say “Begin with a bight…”
  7. Choking a zombie is the only form of breath play approved by Jay Wiseman. Note: “choke outs” may take a bit longer than usual.
  8. In suspension, mats are unnecessary. Tarps, mops, Lysol, & buckets to catch spare parts may be useful for aftercare, though.
  9. Shouting “It’s called necrophilia, and I’m a-gonna FEEL ya!” (or “FILL ya!“) is strangely appropriate in zombifuckery.
  10. ZombiBondage is the only form of bondage where it is actually cheaper to literally cut your bottom out of the ropes, not vice versa.

This Risk Aware Zombie Orgasmic Restraint PSA is a service of www.Ropecast.net. Please be careful out there; remember, bights, not bites.