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Gray Miller, aka "Graydancer", has been teaching, performing, and advocating for kink and BDSM for over a decade.
His work as a professional writer and web content developer can be found all over the world, including the "Ropecast" - the longest-running kink podcast on the web. Gray's cigar & leather play was featured on "Our America with Lisa Ling" on the Oprah Network. Over 50 of his "GRUE" Open Space events have occurred in five countries.
Gray is passionate about subjects such as rope, power exchange, leather, cigars, consent in the community, performance, and the educational aspects of kink.
BDSM & SEX EDUCATION
Practice & theory for all audiences.
Keynotes, inspiration, and informatics
Podcaster, writer, interviewer.
Open-Space and Traditional Cons
Here's what people say about Graydancer
Homework has been great - she just asked if we can go again tonight!
The difference is the sensual energy you coached into the scene.
Your teaching style
I Particularly Love
...the higher-level yet practical approach to looking at BDSM. (And really, for life.) It was lots of fun and very accessible.
Gray shares his top three favorite tricks for cunnilingus. But first he shares some highlights from the recent LA GRUE and information about Consent Incident Response Training! This podcast is made possible KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com . You should let them know you appreciate their support of this podcast by buying their stuff. You can also[…]
Guest presenter Naiia Bound gives an overview of her popular class on how Kink and Depression intersect. She talks about strategies for coping and even growing stronger in your kink even when dealing with various kinds of depression. This podcast is…The Latest Podcast from Graydancer!
It all started at an L.A. GRUE in 2011, when Gray gave a class on fellatio. Not on how to give it, but rather on how to be a better recipient of it! Here are some of the highlights from that class, along with some added commentary. This podcast is made possible KarmaRope.com and TwistedMonk.com[…]
As so many concerns in the kink world turn to issues of consent and negotiation, wouldn’t it be nice if there was some way to keep the sexy? To learn how to both maintain boundaries and set specific limits but still be so fucking turned on by the possibilities? Here’s an idea: why not ask[…]
There’s one thing I forget about teaching at intensives: They’re intense. Naiia and I were going to be teaching eight classes- four together, four apart – over the course of two days at a private residence in Iowa. There were about 18 attendees, some couples and some single, all with one common interest: Power Exchange.[…]
In the beginning of June Naiia and I are going to be co-facilitating part of a neat event at Fort Mason in San Francisco: THIS IS WHAT I WANT festival is hosting an Unconference on pleasure, lineage and sustainability. Join us in this peer led space to collectively explore vital ideas about our various practices[…]
Ever heard the term “fristing”? I wish you had. I am trying to get it into common (well, among the rope-community) parlance much like Dan Savage popularized “santorum”. Senator-Doctor Bill Frist became a cause-celebre for a few weeks a while back when he weighed in on the unfortunate plight of Terry Schaivo. I won’t rehash the[…]
“Why don’t they just…” are four words that I’m beginning to recognize as a warning signal. Uninformed Idiocy Ahead! Sometimes it’s about specific actions. For example: Person A passes Person B in the hallway, and decides to suddenly start some kind of kink play. Person B doesn’t want that kink play to happen, so obviously they[…]
Full disclosure: I was provided with a full set of linen hemp ropes from Esinem for the purposes of review. No other expectations were…um…expected, and Bruce expressly asked me to be very honest about my experience with it. This is a pre-review, because I was asked to give the “real” review on the Ropecast. It’s[…]