My STDCheck Experience

I was provided a free STDCheck 10-test panel by STDCheck (value: $200) in exchange for writing this review of the experience. There was no editorial control or expectations from the company in regards to its content. Stigma. That’s really the biggest problem with sexual health these days, in my opinion. More than behavior, more than[…]

The Future of Sex & Social Change: By Any Dance Necessary

In the beginning of June Naiia and I are going to be co-facilitating part of a neat event at Fort Mason in San Francisco: THIS IS WHAT I WANT festival is hosting an Unconference on pleasure, lineage and sustainability. Join us in this peer led space to collectively explore vital ideas about our various practices[…]

Military Bondage Play in L.A.

I am bringing one of my favorite classes to L.A. for the first time, thanks to the Bordello of Decadence. Boot camp bondage, interrogation techniques, & more! Military bondage play draws from both fictional and practical methods of bondage with a more martial theme. Samurai, the US Cavalry, native Americans, special forces, Batman & Star[…]

Travel Tips for the International Kinkster

Right now I’m at the start of a couple of months of active traveling around the U.S. and Canada. At the same time I’ve been lucky enough to host Hishi Karo of the Shibari Dojo Vienna¬†for a week in my home, which led to many interesting conversations about the differences in various countries. I also[…]

How to (Almost) Not Go Broke As a Kink Presenter

In light of a recent fetlife writing about how presenters need to raise the bar of professionalism, I decided to finally flesh out this writing. It is based on a private email I wrote to a friend who asked me for some advice on how to not go broke as he presented to more events.[…]

Slutshaming for a Cause Still Sucks

Please note: this page contains sponsored links. I have a real problem with this video. The problem does not lie with the dancers – frankly, from a purely choreographical perspective, they are pretty good (especially if they are actually in shut-off booths – that’s hard!). Nor from the idea of subversive street art: from Banksy[…]