There’s a lot of things you don’t do as a dominant. You’re not supposed to play when you’re angry. You’re not supposed to let the bottom goad you into anything they want more than you. You’re not supposed to lose control, ever, because you are responsible for the scene, responsible for everything that happens therein. [...]
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“I’ve always been curious about what rope would feel like,” she said, “you know, with someone who knew what they were doing.” I accepted the implicit compliment with as much grace as I could, smiling in agreement. She was dressed in a lovely green cocktail dress, shimmering various shades of emerald and offset by adorable [...]
Answering Sex Out Loud
Posted: August 28, 2011 by Gray in sex education, writingTags: presentation, sex ed, sex out loud
Recently I was honored to be invited back to the Bondage Capital of the World, Madison, WI to teach a workshop on kink to the Sex Out Loud staff. This is a group of peer-educators who make sex education their business, and damn if they aren’t an impressive bunch. They listened (and watched) me blather [...]
Suspension Bondage is for Lazy Tops
Posted: July 1, 2011 by Gray in art, NeatEvent, play, Rope Bondage, writingTags: bondage, philosophy, play, riggers, scene, suspension
This is going to be an unusually personal post for me, and only tangentially has to do with rope and kink, so feel free to skip it and go on to something more sexy. Lee Harrington has this habit of changing people’s lives. Maybe you already knew that, having taken his classes, heard his sermon [...]
Recently I gave my Worst Class Ever. Seriously, it’s documentably the poorest job I’ve ever done teaching. I appreciate class evaluations from events, even though (as almost any presenter will tell you) that one negative comment will keep me awake at night no matter how effusive the rest of them were. And frankly, usually the [...]
Arden Leigh’s “The Seduction Manual”
Posted: March 30, 2011 by Gray in community, cool people, play, writingHow to Find the Perfect Play Partner
Posted: March 23, 2011 by Gray in community, cool people, Rope Bondage, sex education, twisted monk, writingIt’s funny, when I’m looking over my Google Reader. I’ve got a strange mishmash of feeds…Twisted Monk and Mistress Matisse and Ten and Mollena, of course, but then it veers into Lifehacker and Mnmlist and Hardcore Zen. Then we take another only slight turn to the right into productivity and entrepreneurial blogs like Seth Godin [...]
I, Slut
Posted: March 16, 2011 by Gray in proporn, sex education, writingTags: culture, proporn, sex ed, shame, slut
On January 24th, 2011, a representative of the Toronto Police gave shocking insight into the Force’s view of sexual assault by stating: “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized”. – from the SlutWalk Toronto Facebook Page Hi, my name’s GrayDancer, and I’m a slut. No, I don’t want to sleep [...]