Did I ever tell you how I turned 40? It was at an event called Dark Odyssey: Winterfire, and I was presenting and getting to meet and hang out with all sorts of fun people. People like Mollena, and Lolita, and my native guide Naiia, and more. It was falling over my birthday, so I[…]

Say that five times fast, I dare ya! Shibaricon was every bit as wonderful as I expected. I met up with old friends, made new friends, and met up with new old friends from online that I’d never seen before. Many people commented that they enjoyed the Ropecast, others that they’d liked Nawashi, even a[…]

This is in response to Matt Smith’s article “Whipped and Gagged” which is, happily, being lambasted by the kink community, especially those who actually work for KINK.com. I used to idealize San Francisco as a bastion of free expression and sexual maturity. As a father of four grown daughters, I have often despaired at the[…]

Recently, a certain Perverted Negress of my acquaintance said some very nice things about our time together in her blog. Among them was this little gem: You know you meet someone and just feel “OK, yeah, this is one of the Soul Family People, and it is great to have you come around again!” This[…]

Maybe you’ve been hiding under a rock and you haven’t heard, but beginning at 5pm PST today KINK.com’s exquisite “Training of O” site (which has been the training ground for some of my favoritest people in the world) will be doing a free live broadcast. The theme is the opening of the “Upper Floor”, a[…]

This episode: the secret to staying kinky in a fiscal depression, aka: buy quality, you never regret it! Recommended products include: Rope: Hemp from Twisted Monk, proud sponsor of the Ropecast. Jute from Kinkyropes (special “volumizer” sale through Easter!) MFP from Rainbow Rope Porn: David Lawrence’s new book “reBound“ Kink on Demand shoots from Kink.com[…]

If not, what’s your excuse? He put the WHOLE FRIKKIN’ BOOK online, for people to page through. However, if you look at this, and go “hmm, nice, now I’ve seen it, no need for a book…” you’re doing yourself and the rest of us a disservice. Really. I was lucky enough to get an original[…]

Returning to the Miramar Theater, Graydancer is going to take part in “Foreplay Mondays” put on by Erotic Milwaukee: Ooh la la! Monday, widely held as the worst day of the week, is about to get a rather risqué reputation, the sexiest day of the week. Starting this month the Miramar Theatre will feature Erotic[…]

Because of a last-minute cancellation, I will be presenting this weekend at the Crucible in Washington D.C. I’m not sure what I’ll be presenting on, but odds are it will be more rope-focused than lots of other events – and that’s fine with me, I like going both ways! Best of all, I will finally[…]

I didn’t realize that the eminently cool XKCD comic also happens to allow hotlinking of images to other blogs (way to be Creatively Common!). This means I can share with everyone this particular image that came through a while back, which helps explain exactly what is meant by “second base”, etc. For more information on[…]