This post is part of the April 2013 A-to-Z Challenge
I had a lot of great suggestions for what to blog about for B. Booty. Bondage. Breast. Boobies. Blowjob. Even Bacon was, by nature, tempting. But then someone suggested “baculine.” And that got my attention, because I didn’t actually know what the fuck baculine meant.
And while I don’t claim to know everything there is to know about kink and sex, I do happen to know an awful lot. I’m a fan of esoteric words like callipygean and piloerection as they relate to pleasure, and bastinado has long been my favorite Eagle’s song. But this was something that I could not parse, not even searching my knowledge of root words. This was the ultimate seduction: challenging my current status as a sex geek while at the same time making me curious as to what this strange new word might reveal.
Much to my joy, baculine did not disappoint:
[bak-yuh-lin, -lahyn] adjectivepertaining to the rod or its use in punishing: baculine discipline in the classroom.Origin:
1700–10; < Latin bacul ( um ) walking stick, staff
I got some criticism when I was in Our America with Lisa Ling because I mentioned that unlike most kinksters, some of my pleasures can be traced directly to abuse that I had when a child. Without going into too much detail, it was definitely baculine in nature, but unfortunately was not consensual. I’ve found, over the years, I’m very much a fan of the baculine pursuits with partners who are willing and eager to devote their backsides to it. Whether it’s “six of the good ones” (five parallel cane marks down the cheeks and one more diagonally to connect them all) or my own preference, the “asterisk” (two diagonals forming an X and a horizontal strike where all the lines intersect), there’s a combination of sensuality and ritual that makes the process amazingly intimate.