What, did you think I was going to say “dominant”? I hate being predictable. Actually, it was originally going to be that word. Having mentioned “control freak” yesterday I felt it necessary to express the other side of that coin: A dominant person chooses to control what they want when they want because they enjoy it.[…]
This post is part of the April 2013 A-to-Z Challenge is for baculine. I had a lot of great suggestions for what to blog about for B. Booty. Bondage. Breast. Boobies. Blowjob. Even Bacon was, by nature, tempting. But then someone suggested “baculine.” And that got my attention, because I didn’t actually know what the fuck baculine meant. And[…]
There’s a lot of things you don’t do as a dominant. You’re not supposed to play when you’re angry. You’re not supposed to let the bottom goad you into anything they want more than you. You’re not supposed to lose control, ever, because you are responsible for the scene, responsible for everything that happens therein.[…]
“I’ve always been curious about what rope would feel like,” she said, “you know, with someone who knew what they were doing.” I accepted the implicit compliment with as much grace as I could, smiling in agreement. She was dressed in a lovely green cocktail dress, shimmering various shades of emerald and offset by adorable[…]
Recently I was honored to be invited back to the Bondage Capital of the World, Madison, WI to teach a workshop on kink to the Sex Out Loud staff and pulling out practices. This is a group of peer-educators who make sex education their business, and damn if they aren’t an impressive bunch. They listened[…]
This is going to be an unusually personal post for me, and only tangentially has to do with rope and kink, so feel free to skip it and go on to something more sexy. Lee Harrington has this habit of changing people’s lives. Maybe you already knew that, having taken his classes, heard his sermon[…]
Recently I gave my Worst Class Ever. Seriously, it’s documentably the poorest job I’ve ever done teaching. I appreciate class evaluations from events, even though (as almost any presenter will tell you) that one negative comment will keep me awake at night no matter how effusive the rest of them were. And frankly, usually the[…]
It’s funny, when I’m looking over my Google Reader. I’ve got a strange mishmash of feeds…Twisted Monk and Mistress Matisse and Ten and Mollena, of course, but then it veers into Lifehacker and Mnmlist and Hardcore Zen. Then we take another only slight turn to the right into productivity and entrepreneurial blogs like Seth Godin[…]
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