“Brinksmanship is…the deliberate creation of a recognizable risk, a risk that one does not completely control. It is the tactic of deliberately letting the situation get somewhat out of hand, just because its being out of hand may be intolerable to the other party and force his accommodation…showing that if he makes a contrary move[…]
A while back, after my homily on Dangerous Rope at the DC GrUE, I found this message from Raven1st in my Fetlife inbox. I’ve redacted and edited, but I think you’ll get the gist: In a discussion about keeping our own personal relationships with our partners exciting, significant, personal, intense, private (even in a room[…]
“We must learn to position ourselves effortlessly within each moment, rather than stumbling through time. We can either escape from the moment or stay with it as it unfolds and do something good with it.” – C.M. Forni, The Civility Solution Last night was rough. Last night was great. I’m not sure whether the latter[…]
I’ve been taking some time the last few mornings to continue reading Sex, Sin & Zen by one of my favorite authors and Zen teachers, Brad Warner. Today I finished the chapters on BDSM and queer identity in Buddhist culture, which I’m sure you can imagine was of interest to “Bad Buddhist*” like me The[…]
“Easy, fast, and useful ties, as advertised. Exceeded expectations. Even people in the back were able to see. Gray demonstrated multiple times so that everyone could see what and how he was tying. Nice, loud speaker that didn’t mess around. Yay!” – Shibaricon 2010 Attendee on Graydancer’s “Tie ‘Em Up & Fuck ‘Em” class That[…]
It’s my last morning of a truly epic trip here in NYC. The community of sex bloggers, event organizers, kinksters, artists, sexologists, and more have been open and welcoming like you would not believe. Right now I’m spending my last morning at DGSolar & Violet‘s apartment in Brooklyn, after a pleasant evening talking about their[…]
Photo courtesy of Emmy Welcome to e[lust] – Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #20? Start with the rules, check out the[…]
A recent post over at the ever-stimulating Bondage Blog shows a still from one of those “great combinations” – in this case, Asian “pinkku” films with Women-in-Prison genre. As the Ropeguy puts it, it’s time to “Strip the prisoner!” It puts me in mind of one of the topics I bring up in my Military[…]
It’s that time of year again! I’ve been lucky enough to be part of the NYC Sexblogger Calendar posse since the first year they started, mainly in the form of publicizing their work through interviews, blog posts, the occasional scandalously flirtatious tweet exchange with Debauched Diva… And, of course, I would also buy a day.[…]
There were a lot of great things that happened at the recent MadTown Kinkfest, but one of the most interesting and inspiring moments for me came during a chance encounter in a hallway. A Madison friend of mine, I’ll call him Conqueror, was chatting with me and DoNotGoGently as we refreshed ourselves with water. “Drink[…]
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