Z is for Zen

“Zen? Why would you want to believe in Zen? They don’t believe in anything!“- My stepmother, circa 1985 “Surprisingly, the height of both the arousal and the meditative state seemed to come for both the top and the bottom when the rope was coming off – that is, in the negative space that was being[…]

F is for Fellatio

While this might have seemed like a no-brainer, I’m not going to sit here and give people advice on how to perform fellatio, as some of my esteemed colleagues have done. One in particular is a het male who somehow manages to teach women-only workshops on how to give better blowjobs. That blows my mind,[…]

How to Find the Perfect Play Partner

It’s funny, when I’m looking over my Google Reader. I’ve got a strange mishmash of feeds…Twisted Monk and Mistress Matisse and Ten and Mollena, of course, but then it veers into Lifehacker and Mnmlist and Hardcore Zen. Then we take another only slight turn to the right into productivity and entrepreneurial blogs like Seth Godin[…]

I, Slut

On January 24th, 2011, a representative of the Toronto Police gave shocking insight into the Force’s view of sexual assault by stating: “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized”. – from the SlutWalk Toronto Facebook Page Hi, my name’s GrayDancer, and I’m a slut. No, I don’t want to sleep[…]